- Posted by Rebecca Rowley
- On 7th March 2018
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When new mummies-to-be arrive at Beau Baby early on in their pregnancy you know they are here for the long run and have made that huge decision to invest in their pregnancy and birth. This was the case for this gorgeous mummy-to-be who had been advised by friends to join us at Beau Baby. It’s always so warming when friends recommend us but you still always hope they enjoy it as much as their friend.
Always the first to arrive at pregnancy relaxation, this mummy had a demanding job working as a college lecturer so a weekly dose of relaxation was definitely what she needed. With great delight she got to grips with the hypnosis quickly and every Monday night at Park View Lytham was the perfect tonic.
Knowing how much hypnobirthing was on the cards for this mummy & daddy, when they attended their group course the strength and knowledge they learnt over the day was the anchor to what this couple deserved. This couple were committed from Day 1 and through their twists and turns of their labour & birth I am so happy they got their positive birth they deserved.
If there is one thing I ALWAYS want mummies to do soon after they have had their baby is write their birth account. Your mind has ways where over the years you forget certain elements, writing it down fresh when in your mind acts as the perfect reminder. This is the one thing I am most grateful of.
This is what this mummy had to say:
“On Friday morning I woke around 7am with reduced movements. I’d slept through again in the night and I’d been used to her moving and waking me up throughout the night. There had been a lot of movement the night before but not as much as normal. I didn’t feel right about the reduced movements so I called the Maternity Day Unit and went down for 10:20am. They monitored us for a while and did my blood pressure which was really high. After more monitoring of me and baby I saw the doctor who after speaking to the consultant said they would like to induce me on the Saturday. Although a little scared at first we talked it through and made a list of everything we needed to do to make sure we were ready for her arrival. After the news of being Strep B positive I knew the birth wouldn’t be as expected but induction was not something I’d planned for or even thought about. They did offer me a sweep at the hospital but I said no, this was something I just didn’t feel right about and trusted my gut instinct that this was not right for how I wanted things to go. We left the hospital and went and got everything ready, we did a food shop, bought her a Christmas outfit (which is now way to big!), came home and washed my hair, shaved my legs, cleaned the house and tidied. I felt ready for her arrival.
I knew I wouldn’t sleep much on the Friday night knowing that on Saturday we would be induced. I got in bed about 9:30pm and put on the Birth Rehearsal track. I slept through till 12pm when I woke on my front with pains in my pelvis. They were really strong and I could hardly move. I got out of bed and went to find chris who was still awake. We spoke briefly about the pains and I made the decision to call the Delivery Suite. Once again trusting my instinct that something was happening. They told me to monitor for an hour and then call back if I was still having pains. Throughout that hour the pains where every 5 minutes or so and very painful but I breathed through each one remembering all the techniques learnt at relaxation and hypnobirthing. I rang back just after 1:15am and said the pains where every 5 minutes and that I felt I needed to come in. They agreed and we got ready to go. Whilst getting ready my waters broke in the hallway.
We got to the hospital at about 2:30am and was put on the delivery suite and I was examined, I was 3cm dilated and the midwife confirmed my waters had broken.
Being Strep B positive meant that the Birthing Centre was now out of the question and I didn’t even ask about it during labour or birth, just trusted what was happening and my body.
I was hooked up to a monitor for baby and her trace a little all over the place and did make some of the positions I felt I wanted to be in to help ease the contractions difficult. It also meant I was on the bed the whole time which was something I previously said I really didn’t want.
With each contraction I just kept remembering the drawing of the spikes from the hypnobirthing class, remembering that I could do this and I just had to get to the top for it to ease again. I kept hearing your voice saying you got this! And I did!
The contractions became closer together and although I was having gas and air I opted to also have some diamorphine which really helped. At about 6am I felt I was ready to push and asked if that was okay. The midwife was amazing and listened to me. I was allowed to start pushing. This bit was the hard bit and the bit where I really had a lot of self doubt. It felt like I was climbing a hill but I just couldn’t reach the top. I got really frustrated with everyone and myself, this bit took a lot longer than it should of done and I still hadn’t pushed the head out by 7:30am. I kept asking for forceps because I felt like I couldn’t do it. I just couldn’t get over the pain and everyone kept saying one more push but there where so many one more pushes I got mad and told everyone off, this was definitely my self-doubt phase big style.
At this point the Midwife’s where suggesting intervention from the doctor. I was literally minutes away from this happening when I finally kicked the wall down and pushed her head out. The last push for the rest of her body was easier and then she was put on my chest. They gave me the injection for the placenta and baby was handed over to Chris for skin to skin. Once the placenta had been delivered I was told I needed stitches and quite a few. I used gas and air for this and closed my eyes, each time I opened them I focused on chris holding our baby girl and how amazing that felt! The stitches were a lot easier to deal with than I thought they would be.
At one point there where 3 people (Midwife’s – mine, the one who was handing over and a trainee) and I got a bit upset and said there where too many people. No one left and in fact there where more than that in the room when I delivered but without them all giving me the confidence I’d have had the intervention from the doctor.
Throughout each stage I listened to the Beau Baby music and focused. I listened to myself, trusted my body and listened to the midwife. I had the best support on the journey that I could of had, from Beau Baby but also from my mum and Chris who got me through each contraction, each push and ultimately helped me birth my baby girl.
Although it was tough, and I really did feel like giving up at the pushing stage I really belief that without Beau Baby giving me the confidence to trust in my own body and to remain calm I would have really struggled to remain positive in both birth, labour and throughout my whole pregnancy. My dad has also commented on how similar Isabella’s birth is to mine 26 years ago, including defrosting the car in the early hours, how long it took etc etc. He says it’s like repeating it all again.
We honestly can’t say thank you enough for all your help and support throughout our journey! And I am sure that the techniques we have learnt will help us through each stage of being a parent too!”
WOW, so beautiful, you get a real sense of what this birth was all about. It is always the biggest honour when Beau Baby mummies share their full birth story. When each and every mummy leaves Beau Baby to have their baby I get a real sense of emptiness, having supported them daily for up to 6+ months. But when your clients venture into the baby business whilst on maternity leave it’s a real joy seeing what they are up to over on Instagram. This Mummy’s business makes cards for parent hood… being a parent is the hardest job in the world… we all need a daily dose of support!
The BIGGEST congratulations on the birth of your adorable daughter, perfect in every way!
Warmest wishes, Rebecca xx